You might be wondering why I picked this as a topic. Some time ago, I would not even have considered an email that would have that as a title, thinking: I am taking care of myself, I don’t need anybody to tell me how to take care of myself….
Well, I am not going to tell you how to do that (well, maybe a bit then) but especially I want to tell you how important it is to take care of yourself.
You see, we are wired to take care of people. Specially us, women… Sorry guys, but you might still recognize yourselves 😉 We take care of our kids, our spouse, our parents, and sometimes all of them at the same time! And some of us are also wired to please people, like taking care is not enough, we have to go even further…
But the thing is, by doing that, we forget ourselves, and we forget that we can only take good care of others when we first take good care of ourselves. How good are we with our kids when we are exhausted? I know that I tend to cry, to get upset easily and to shout a lot more easily when I am tired, for instance… That’s even when I recognize I have been too far and I need to take a step back! And relax, do less, sleep more etc. (plus, with the heat wave here, it’s a good reason to slow down!)
But I also realized I have a blockage to doing less (and even more so to doing nothing!). That is, I am afraid that if I stop doing things (and take real holidays for instance, where I disconnect from FB, emails etc), I will completely loose all motivation and it will be difficult to start again after the holidays. Talk about limiting beliefs 😉 …
So, knowing all that… I negotiate with myself (and with my hubby who wants me to stop too), and I am very conscious of the things I say Yes to and the things I say No too. So for instance when I get the chance I have a nap in the afternoon – even 15 min – even if I don’t sleep, just for the sake of doing nothing for a while. I book quality time with a friend for a tea together. I can also decide to not take another appointment when I feel I have enough on my plate.
The key here for me is to accept that you come first, and to check in with yourself every time, so that each Yes and each No are exactly the right thing to do at that time. And to be proud of yourself (and even to celebrate) for taking good care of yourself. Do you think you can do that?
I wish you a wonderful week!
“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary.” – Mandy Hale