I went back to reading this great book about fears I already told you about (putting it back here just in case!) and I came across something she said that stayed with me. Can’t find the proper sentence back, but it was along the lines of: At the end of the day, what you are afraid of is to not be able to handle whatever comes your way. I find that very powerful and very true. I am not afraid of heights as such for instance, I am afraid that I am going to have a panic attack if I go somewhere up, and that I am going to faint and die (instead of handling the situation! ;-))
So you might be afraid of making some big change, be it moving country, changing job, becoming an entrepreneur, quitting your day job, leaving your partner, investing in your business, taking risks, exposing yourself… But at the end of the day, if you knew you could handle it, whatever happens, wouldn’t you go for it? (I certainly would!)
So today I have a few tips for you!
First of all, we can use a mantra (if you have never used one before, it’s a sentence we repeat to ourselves as many times as possible per day for a period of time, until it gets registered into our subconscious and we believe it!) that would say something like: “whatever happens, I know I will be able to handle it”. You can put it as a reminder on your phone, as post-it on your bathroom mirror, on the back of your entrance door, etc. So when you feel the fear coming up, repeat it to yourself!
Secondly, I believe that taking risks is going out of your comfort zone. But the good news is: you don’t have to go too far at once! How about taking small and calculated risks to build up your self-confidence, before you dare taking bigger risks? (We already talked about that in the 7 day Feel Good e-course, with doing something new every day J) For some of you asking for help is already going out of your comfort zone, for others it might be talking to strangers, or calling people who can help you develop your activity, etc. We all have a different starting point. What is important is that by taking those small risks regularly we build up our ability to do more (on top of our self-confidence), and the things that once seemed difficult, impossible, do not seem so anymore.
Thirdly, if what you “fear” is also what you desire the most (I am talking big things like ending a relationship or changing career), I would use the 10 years test. What it is about is for you to consider your life in 10 years if you do it and if you don’t. How different would it be? If you think you would regret not doing the thing you fear, then I would say Just do it! Of course, a good preparation upfront can be of help ;-), my point here is for you to be able to distinguish between what’s really important for you and what’s not!
I wish you a wonderful week!