There’s this famous saying that goes: “ Treat others how you would like to be treated”. Well, of course I agree with that ;-), but my point here is that you need to treat yourself well if you want other people to do the same. Otherwise, how could they know how you want to be treated?
Let me elaborate… If you want people to respect your boundaries, you need to set them and to respect them yourself first!
For instance, if you are an entrepreneur, and letting people bargain your price, or not being able to state it firmly, people will feel it and not pay you the price you asked for, bargain even more etc.
If you are a mom and you are trying to educate your kid(s), then you need to really lead by example, because otherwise they will notice your hesitation, find the smallest crack and use it against you (they don’t need to be evil to act like that, just kids 😉
Equally, if you want people to treat you like a queen, then you need to treat yourself like a queen. Whatever that means to you: buying yourself flowers every week, dressing well, taking care of yourself and your health, your look, etc..
Got my point? So, what is it that you are not getting from others? If it’s respect, chances are that you are letting people walk over you because you are not respecting yourself enough (or your work). If it’s love, start giving yourself more love (and while you’re at it, why not give more to others?). If it’s compliments, give yourself compliments when you look at yourself in the mirror in the morning (and mean them ;-). Whatever it is, give it to yourself, you deserve it. Moreover, don’t they say: “if you want something done right, do it yourself” 😉
So start right there, and start now. Isn’t Now is the only moment we have, right? 😉
I wish you a wonderful week!