My gratitude list for 2017

Hello gorgeous,

At this time of year, it is a tradition to look back and feel grateful for all that the year has brought, as well as look forward and think about (and visualize, and make a vision board) what are our objectives for 2018.

I would like to share today what I am grateful for in 2017 (in no particular order!):

  • Having had to make some (tough) choices wrt work
  • More work-life balance as a result
  • New job opportunities
  • New relationships forming and developing
  • New lovely clients
  • A happy and healthy family
  • A big party for my 50th birthday and our 10th wedding anniversary
  • Kids doing well at school and growing into beautiful and kind humans
  • A lot of learning, on intuition, money, drumming and kinesiology
  • The same beautiful house in the same beautiful and sunny region
  • A lot of crocheting (am particularly proud of my big cactus) and DIY-ing
  • Having earned more money this year than last year
  • Managing a bit of sport this year (yoga and cross-fit)
  • Tackling my health issues…and getting rid of my carcinoma after 2 surgeries
  • And probably forgetting (again) a lot of things on this list J

If you managed to start (and continue with) the gratitude jar last year, this time of year would be a perfect moment to review it!

And if not, maybe you could start now J: use a big jar, decorate it so that you feel great just by looking at it, and use small pieces of colored paper to write the things you are grateful for, and make it a habit to do that (remember, it takes as much as 66 days to get a new habit installed, so keep going!). You could do it in the evenings before going to bed (like if you were to write them all in your gratitude journal instead), or do it together as a family on Sunday evenings to look back at the week…

I want to end this post by wishing you a wonderful Christmas and a blissful, joyful, healthy and wealthy 2018.

Joy & Happiness are born of Gratitude

Take good care of yourself and enjoy life!

Much love, Madeleine

Being ok with where we are

Hello gorgeous,

I first want to apologize for having let you down and not writing for so long. I have been struggling with time for a while and adapting my schedule a few times…And I think it’s finally time I make peace with myself… I got this email in my inbox this week and I decided to keep it, as it was very timely…

“We encourage you to make peace with yourself and where you are in this lifetime. Your level of evolvement has nothing to do with the physical aspects of your life, your level of achievement, your relationships, your money or your health. Your evolvement is in your ability to shift from the lower frequencies you may find yourself in from day to day, to the higher realms you are coming to know.”

I have the feeling that I am always fighting and pushing through. I justify it to myself by saying that I want more (whatever it is that I want more of!), but the truth is that I am never (ok, I am, but very seldom) really taking the time to rest and look at my progress. And my gut tells me I am far from being the only one like that… Can you relate?

So what now? How do I make peace with myself, and how can you too?

  1. Accepting where we are doesn’t mean that we can’t want more, or that it’s as good as it’s ever gonna get. No, it’s more about stopping the negative self talk that we entertain with ourselves, stopping the blame (the “why aren’t you yet further than this?” type blame). That’s accepting ourselves fully, even though we might not always like what we see. Stop what you are doing and take a minute or two to feel it inside. If you can, use this opportunity to meditate on it for a few minutes.
  2. It’s recognizing how far we came. Recognizing the long road, the obstacles, the lessons we learned, the friends we made, the ones we had to part with, as they did not “match” the person we became, the learning and the growth we went through, our progress. That’s where having a journal (even if you are not writing everyday in it) helps, because we can look back easily and remember how it was, how we were before, and it makes the difference much clearer. But we can still do it without journal J. We can still look at our life, a year ago, and look at the difference in how we fill our agenda, in who we see regularly, in our activities, even in our bank account ;-).
  3. Time to be grateful (isn’t it always time to be grateful?). This time, write it down even if you don’t have a journal. Write it on a note in your phone, on a piece of paper, somewhere, but get it out! I’ll start then…

I am grateful for everybody who’s supporting me on my journey. I am grateful for my friends and my husband challenging my views (and agenda). I am grateful for all the learning opportunities that abound. I am grateful for the job opportunities, the ones I said yes to and the ones I said no to. I am grateful for my ambition to want more. I am grateful for never giving up on my dreams.

Your turn now!

Take good care of yourself and enjoy life!

Much love, Madeleine

Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.

My gratitude list for 2016

Hello gorgeous,

I first want to thank you for your understanding, for still being here with me, and for asking me when the blog posts would be back ;-).

I had to take a break, because I just could not handle everything at once (Remember, we can do everything, but just not everything at the same time ;-)). While I still can’t, I felt the urge today to send you a quick note and to feel into how grateful I am for 2016 and what it brought to me, and I hope to you as well.

I am grateful for having (in no particular order!):

  • New relationships forming and developing
  • Run a few women circles and enjoyed it thoroughly
  • A lot of work and new clients
  • Gone back on the motorcycle and enjoying it!
  • Been able to go to Barcelona for a long week-end to celebrate our friend’s 50th birthday
  • Adopted a 2nd Golden Retriever
  • A happy and healthy family
  • The opportunity to learn constantly
  • Learning new things, on circles, intuition, drumming and kinesiology
  • A beautiful house in a beautiful and sunny region
  • Expressed my creativity in many ways
  • And probably forgetting a lot of things on this list 😉

So, while we are at it, why not start the new year with a gratitude jar (instead of a gratitude journal), by taking a big one (or even a vase), decorating it, and using small pieces of colored paper to write the things we are grateful for when we feel it (and so that we can review and feel even better when we are feeling a bit down, or at the end of the year for a good review)?

I want to end today by wishing you a blissful, wonderful and delicious 2017.

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Take good care of yourself and enjoy life!

Much love, Madeleine

Permission granted!

Hello gorgeous,

I gave myself permission to take a holiday from blogging for a few weeks, so I am thereby giving you the authorization to do the same (just in case you needed it ;-))

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I wish you a wonderful summer!

Much love, Madeleine

Happiness is an inside job…

Hello gorgeous,

I was watching a Ted talk yesterday from Mathieu Ricard (who is a French writer and Buddhist monk) and was reminded (in case I needed to!) that happiness was an inside job. His advice is to go inside (for instance by meditating) and concentrate on positive feelings like gratitude, compassion and love, which are the antidote feelings for anger, hatred etc. He was also saying that happiness should not depend on how much (stuff, money etc.) you have, but should be a state of being instead.

So I had to think about own quest for happiness and those last 2-3 years since I came back to the South of France. I am no Buddhist monk and not an intense meditator either (although I do meditate, alone and in a group), but I completely resonated with what he said. I feel that I now have a stable core, and that, although I can still be suddenly thrown out of balance by an external event, but at least I know it won’t last very long before I am my normal self again.

Here are my conclusions on what helped me, let me know if it’s the same for you!

  • I tried to make the most of what I had, and be grateful for it. Even though I put it aside for a while as a journaling habit, writing down everyday a few things I was grateful for helped me a lot. To realize how much we already have and how blessed we are. And that it’s not about how much money is there.
  • I consciously thought of self-care, even if I am not the best example in that area, I know how important it is!
  • I gathered my tribe, and it is still expanding. It is so important to be with like-minded people, and people who will lift you up. (It also means letting go of relationships that do not serve you anymore…). My friends are all very different and I am grateful for each one of them to be who they are and for our relationship!
  • I follow my heart whenever possible. It might not always seem logical to others, but I am following my desires and adjusting my course when needed.
  • I accept people and events as they are. If I don’t get what I want immediately, there must be a reason, and it means I will get something even better. People are the way they are, I don’t try to change them, it’s either accepting them as they are or letting them go.

Carpe

I wish you a wonderful week!

Much love, Madeleine

11 ideas to be your own Valentine ☺

Hello gorgeous,

This last weekend was Valentine, and although I believe it is much more commercial than it is romantic, I still get romantic at heart. Our daughter gave us her pocket money so that we could go to the restaurant together, and that really touched us a lot! (We said we would go the 4 of us in a few weeks instead ;-)).

The romantic in me wants to talk about love, more specifically about how we can take good care of ourselves, like our lover would do. So here are my ideas, I am sure you will get some more, don’t hesitate to share on the blog!

  1. The most obvious: buy yourself a gift, like flowers, a jewel, or a lingerie set. After all, who better than ourselves know which flowers we like, which bra fits us the best etc…
  2. Self-care: treat yourself with an aromatic bath, using scented candles, take a good book with you and maybe a glass of wine (or a tea!), and enjoy your time (don’t forget to put warm water after a while ;-))
  3. Share: call a good friend for a nice and long-due conversation today, but pick one that is uplifting and will give you energy, not the other way around. Don’t gossip, simply be positive and uplifting.
  4. Plan: Look at your bucket list and plan your next move, your next item on the list. And if you don’t have a bucket list yet, it’s high time to start one!
  5. Write: write yourself a love letter, tell yourself what and why you love about yourself, about your qualities, your personality traits, and maybe what you love about your appearance as well. Try to be as exhaustive as possible. Fill at least one A4 page, more is even better.
  6. Get emotional: get yourself a good DVD or rent a movie for the evening. One that you want to see very badly, or one that you already saw and always makes you laugh (or cry or both, whatever you feel like).
  7. Get physical: you get to choose, yoga, Pilates, dancing with the music, hula hooping, running, whatever sport you prefer. Go generate those endorphins!!!
  8. Go in nature: go for a walk (or for a run!) and take all the time you need to feel, smell, listen and relax. You may even want to hug a tree! And if you have a dog, you do that already, so just be even more mindful of the nature than you normally are.
  9. Act like a kid: time to pick one of those adult coloring books, or create something with your hands (like a dream-catcher, I showed my daughters recently how to make one), or play (beat the dancer on the Wii Just Dance for instance, or anything else where you can really let yourself go as a kid would do!), you may also hug your favorite teddy bear, indulge in candies and Nutella…
  10. The Feng-Shui way: declutter! Oh I can feel the resistance, yours as well as mine, when I hear those words… And yet, after decluttering even just one drawer, you will already feel so much lighter! So time to throw those old undies, give away what you don’t wear anymore etc. and make sure you keep all those old souvenirs together in a chest instead of having them scattered everywhere in the house!
  11. The most woo-woo: meditate and decide to feel the love inside of you (that very high frequency…). When you feel it, send it out, to your kids, your parents, your friends, your pets etc. for a few moments. It feels really good!

SINCE 1991

I would love to know which of those you already do consistently, to treat yourself well. And if you have new ones, I would love to know as well to make this list much bigger!

Have a wonderful week!

Much love,

Madeleine

Respect your time!

Hello gorgeous,

I came across a post from Elizabeth Gilbert (author of the famous Eat, Pray, Love book) and it resonated with me so I am expanding on that with you today. She said she always thought she was a low energy person, until she realized she was not, but she was giving away her energy to difficult relationships and to things and people who were draining her energy. When she stopped, she immediately got a lot more energy. Sounds miraculous, right?

I would like to invite you to have a look at your own energy levels, at how the days go by, and when you feel energetic, and when you feel depleted. For instance, when I am actively engaged in DIY, time flies and I am having so much fun that I am not “losing” energy but it’s like I am producing energy. After a coaching session (or a really good and inspiring conversation), just the same, I feel I have produced energy and feel on a high. But when I have to deal with administrative tasks and annoying neighbors, oh my God, I feel I need to recover after that…

How is it for you? Can you notice what are the tasks and activities that you go through and that are giving you energy, and what are those that are sucking your energy instead? Maybe it’s about the people who are around you as well, positive and uplifting people will always give you energy, and negative people will have a tendency to suck yours…

I encourage you to make a list – or actually 2 lists, one for what/who gives you energy and one for what/who drains your energy, so that you can contemplate it and change your schedule accordingly.

How can you spend more time doing what you love, seeing uplifting people, and less time doing what you dislike and with negative people?

Maybe it will require learning to say no more often… (You can read my post here on setting boundaries for more inspiration).

Maybe it will require you to be more conscious of how you spend your time (and maybe spend less on social media 😉 so that you get more efficient!).

Maybe it will mean do less and be more, as in be less active doing things, and take some time to journal, reflect, meditate, read (and for those of us introverts, time alone is a must in order to regenerate!).

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I would love for you to join my 10 days Self-Love Challenge (if you haven’t done so already). Here’s the FB group for you to join (click here). If you are not on FB, no worries, you can still participate, just drop me an email at contact at madeleineroyere dot com! It starts on November 18th.

I wish you a wonderful week!