Instead of what I had planned for you this week, I have chosen another topic that came up a few times during conversations this week…
Perfectionism and procrastination often go hand in hand (although procrastination also has other causes ;-)) So you might have the feeling that your life would be easier if you weren’t such a perfectionist, and you are completely right, it would be, a lot… So that’s the first step. Now how do you let go of perfectionism, how do you go from there to “good enough is good enough”?
I think a good exercise here is to think of all the things that you are not doing because of perfectionism:
- Are you not starting this business you want to because you are not “ready”?
- Are you not submitting your book because you feel “it still needs editing”?
- Are you not putting up your website because it’s not “finished” (e.g. “perfect”)?
- Are you still taking course after course because you still need to learn first?
- Are you not exposing yourself (or your work) because you are afraid of rejection?
- Are you not showing up fully because you are afraid of what people will think?
My gut feel is that once you start looking at all those things (that you deeply want) that you are not doing, you will start uncovering those fears that are behind (fear of rejection, fear of being ridiculed, fear of not being loved etc.), but you will also understand that they are not “real”, they are – again – your ego trying to keep you safe.
So now that you know what you are afraid of, how about dreaming instead? Dreaming of those things finally happening, that successful business, that book, that play, that show, whatever it is? Can you let yourself dream of how it could look like, how you would feel? Isn’t that worth the effort and facing your fear?
If dreaming is too difficult for you to do now, another game is the “and then?”. Suppose you want to publish that book and you need to contact publishers. What is the worst that can happen? A rejection, right? Ok, and then? Then you contact another one and you might get another rejection. And then? Every time you dig deeper and ask yourself that same question. Until it doesn’t seem so bad, so difficult, so horrible anymore… Do you know how many times writers had to receive rejection before they got published? There are many stories of famous authors, and J.K. Rowling, to cite only one, faced 12 rejections before she got her first Harry Potter published! So considering your particular situation, what is the worst that can happen? And then?
To conclude on a humoristic note, I came across this tee shirt recently, and I had to share it with you, I haven’t ordered it yet but am considering it! (excuse the offensive language on it ;-)) (here’s the link – am not an affiliate!)
I wish you a wonderful week!