I started a new diet a week ago and went on the scale today, to discover that I had lost 1,5 kg in that first week. Needless to say, I am ecstatic and going on with the diet. Although I only need to shed a few more, I recently felt it was time for me to act on it. After all, it meant a few sacrifices (no cheese, yogurts, sweets, desserts, and only 2 apples, 2 bananas and a few berries as sweet things this week ;-), but at the same time, it did not feel so difficult to follow. Because I was ready for it.
And then I had to think about other times in my life when I had that same feeling, and what came was when I stopped smoking, about 13 years ago. During the previous New Year’s eve celebration, we had shared our new years resolutions and mine was to stop smoking in 2002. My friends said that if I did not declare a fixed date for doing it I would not do it. I replied that they should trust me and that somewhere during the year it would happen. Well, it did happen. In June, I started dating my husband-to-be, who was a non-smoker. Although he never complained about my smoking and never asked me to stop, that contributed to my feeling of “it’s about time now”. I had got from a friend the name of a hypnotherapist who was doing group sessions to stop smoking, so off I went, to Paris (I had moved to The Netherlands already!), for a session with him. And it worked. And although I attribute this success to hypnotherapy, I also believe it would not have been possible if I hadn’t decided I was ready to stop.
This being said, I also agree with the motivational speakers when they say: “start before you are ready”, but to me that applies more to things like starting as an entrepreneur. And I also know perfectly well that I told you, not so long ago, that your fears would not go away unless you did the thing you feared, that there is no such thing as “I’ll do it when I feel ready”.
So then, how can all of those be true at the same time? (you got me thinking for a minute here…). To me, the difference is in the fears. I did not fear going on a diet, I didn’t fear stopping smoking, I was just being comfortable keeping my habits ;-). Until the point came when there was like an inside click in me, where I felt in agreement with the growing desire to stop smoking and to loose weight. That’s what readiness looked like for me.
Whereas, indeed, with things like public speaking… I don’t think I will ever be “ready”. But it’s ok, because I do it anyway (well, of course, I still have to force myself, but I know I can do it!).
I am curious to know if that resonates with you! Let me know!
I wish you a wonderful week!