Why wait?

Hello gorgeous,

Have you done your bucket list yet? (If not I encourage you to stop right here and do it, and I share a template for you in this email – but feel free to use any piece of paper you’d like, or your bullet journal for that!) You know, listing all those things that you want to do / see one day before you die? Ok, now you have it? Does it look exciting? Any parachute jumps or big trekking trip? New languages to learn, skills to develop, places to see?…

Well, it’s not enough to have a nice looking list full of nice things, the next step is actually to go and plan and do those things. Because if you don’t, then they were just dreams you never thought you would realize one day, but it just seemed nice at the time of writing… I would like to suggest making 2018 the year when you cross most of those items off your list (don’t worry about finishing the list, if you do, I am sure you will get more dreams to fulfill!)? Because, why wait? For more money? More free time? More energy? Sorry to disappoint you, but it’s not going to come to you if you don’t work for it and make some tough choices sometimes. And good health is not a given, it’s also something you need to work hard to maintain, by taking good care of yourself… Sorry to shake you off a bit, but “Life is what you make it”, so make yours one to remember!

About a week ago, I did one of those items on my bucket list. I had always dreamed of trying pole dancing but had never actually done anything about it, apart from taking the flyer from the pole dance school the closest to us. But it suddenly hit me, what was I waiting for, if I wasn’t going to plan it, it would never happen, so let’s go and do it! So I gave a phone call, found a girlfriend to come with me, and off we were, turning around the pole ;-). And we had a blast! (And yes, we are going back! And yes, I remembered I had abs, but well hidden deep inside)

So yes, this one was simple to make happen, but I am sure you have some of those on your list too… Maybe it’s a new sport, maybe it’s a new language, maybe it’s a country you want to visit, take this first step, make an appointment, find a language school (on or offline), get information on the country you want to see, etc… But be a go-getter, go get your dreams today!

I hope this made you think a bit about your bucket list 😉 Please share your actions with me!

 

Take good care of yourself and enjoy life!

Much love, Madeleine

5 ways to be stimulate your creativity

Hello gorgeous,

Creativity is very important to me. I love creating, be it writing a blog post or crocheting a new amigurumi, or inventing a new game when preparing a lesson, or preparing a new challenge… Creativity is something that I dearly cherish and nourish. And sometimes when I feel it’s (momentarily) gone, I feel depressed and am impatient to feel it again!

You might not have that same relationship with creativity, however I believe being creative can help anyone of us in our daily life. It helps finding solutions to problems or challenges we face, it makes us grow as we do something differently than we used to, it makes us proud of ourselves for having come up with a different solution.

How can we stimulate creativity? I found 5 ways that work for me and hope they can help you too!

• Keep creating and practicing your craft. If it’s writing you are after, you probably already know about the morning pages and are probably doing them already. When I stopped writing for my blog, because of a serious lack of time, I thought that the source had dried and that I would not feel inspired again to restart and keep it going again. But here I am, a few weeks down the road, and still feeling inspired, simply because I went back into the habit of writing every week… As with crocheting, practicing simply makes me more of an expert, the more I do, the more I can try out things by myself and invent new patterns, instead of following somebody else’s pattern…
• Don’t censor yourself. Like during a brainstorm, you first need to express everything – even what you would consider stupid – before you can start ordering ideas and keep the best ones. Like no dream can be too big, no idea can be too crazy, there is always something good to take from it, and isn’t it how the best inventions were created?
• Put yourself in somebody else’s shoes. If you feel you can’t come up with a solution to a problem for instance, but you know somebody who always has ideas, ask yourself: what would this person do?
• Get some headspace. Creativity needs space to express itself. If you are too busy to stop for a moment, to relax, to read, maybe to meditate, then you don’t have space for creativity. So make space in your agenda and in your head, park issues and to-do lists for a while, you’ll get back to them after, and let your brain wander and create…
• Ask for help. Of I might lose some of you here… but for the ones who believe we are guided, ask your guides and angels for help on a specific issue / question. I would like to refer you to a TED talk I have seen ages ago, from Elizabeth Gilbert, who wrote “Eat, Pray, Love”. She suggest we have a genius instead of being a genius… Watch it here: https://www.ted.com/talks/elizabeth_gilbert_on_genius/transcript?language=en

I hope to have given you some clues! Please share yours with me!

Take good care of yourself and enjoy life!

Much love, Madeleine

Finish what you start!

Hello gorgeous,

When I was in the corporate world, I once did a personality test called the Belbin Team Roles test. It divides personalities into 9 roles, one of which is a Completer Finisher. Of course, we all have not just one but a few key roles we normally use. The test suggests that, in order to set up an efficient team, one should make sure all roles are represented. Needless to say, one of the roles that I have difficulties taking is this one. I love the energy of creating and starting up something, but much less the energy needed to complete a task… My mother sees me that way too, as somebody who likes to start but who never finishes… And I don’t dare to count the number of online courses I indeed started but haven’t finished yet…

The only problem with that is, the people who succeed are the ones who complete their tasks, not the ones who give up just before the finishing line… And I want to be successful, of course…

So what do I do about that? The answer is: find strategies and motivation to complete my tasks! This is what I came up with and would like to share with you today 🙂

• Get an accountability partner: it could be a colleague, a friend, or a group on Facebook, what really matters is that you express to somebody else what you plan to do, because once you do that, you commit to yourself to finish it, and you probably prefer to finish it than to have to apologize and find excuses for not finishing ;-).
• Keep an Accomplishment Journal or list: what a great list to maintain! You can call it: “I am proud of myself for…“ or “My accomplishments” or whatever you like, but it’s a wonderful list for building your self-confidence and advancing in life. It’s also a great list to look at when you are feeling a bit depressed for whatever reason, because it reminds you of how great a person you are and how much you can accomplish when you set your mind to it.
• Treat / Reward yourself: sometimes the feeling you get when finishing a task is already worth the while, but sometimes more is required. The bigger the task, the bigger the reward of course ;-)! No need to spend tons of money for that, it could be as simple as taking the time to rest outside with a book, take a nap, call a friend, whatever you feel like but never do because you always have so much left to do…

What are your strategies to keep going and finishing your tasks? I’d love to know!

Take good care of yourself and enjoy life!

Much love, Madeleine

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My top 20 Self-Care practices

Hello gorgeous,

A few days ago, I picked my word for 2018 and I encourage you to do the same, so that you have this one guide when it comes to making choices during the year, as in: does it serve me and my objective? Mine is Balance, as I want to pay special attention and care to my health this year, and I want to balance work, family life, learning, enjoying and time for myself. Life is always a balancing act anyway, but this year that’s my objective. So what’s your word?

It then got me thinking about New Year’s resolutions, and was there anything I wanted to commit to. I am not a big fan of committing to a long list of things that I think I should be doing, to then forget about then, or even worse, remembering I am not doing them (and feeling guilty about it)… So instead I decided to make a list of 20 Self-Care practices that I could use whenever I wanted. So here’s my top 20, I hope this can inspire you to do your own list (I also give you a blank one to use here after) and keep it close so you can actually use it often!

Take good care of yourself and enjoy life!

Much love, Madeleine

Every cloud has a silver lining…

Hello gorgeous,

My recent 2 surgeries got me thinking a lot (= far too much). When I heard, back in September, that I had to have a surgery to get rid of a carcinoma on my face, I realized I had been lucky enough to spend the first 50 years of my life surgery free and without any major disease. The first surgery was performed, and 2 weeks later I got the news that I had to go back for a 2^nd one, as the plastic surgeon hadn’t removed everything (in spite of taking the necessary margins). I was devastated. It had taken me so long to accept and be happy with the way I looked, and now I was going to have to do that all again…

It also made me wonder if I would have had the courage to fight it, had it been a different form of cancer. And I was in search of meaning. What had I done (or not done) to bring about something like this to myself? Biological decoding gave me “abandon” but I still could not make enough sense of it. Yes, I felt abandoned, but was that it and what could I do about it now?

The next clue came from a Reiki Master (and Channel) who told me it was about self-acceptance. Now that stayed with me and resonated much more. So I decided to do a “Self-Love Manifesto” for myself, as an exercise of reconciliation with myself. As much as I hope to look more like I used to (instead of the way I look now, with a 5 cm red scar and a swollen part on the inner side of my left eye – although I wouldn’t compare myself to a Picasso portrait anymore as I did right after the surgery), I also know this will take (a lot of) time and I will never be the exact same again.

So I can choose to love myself anyway (and that’s what my husband said, God bless him) or I can choose to complain and mourn the old me. I can give myself time to come to terms with this whole story and go on with my life. The choice is up to me and today I choose Love. What do you choose today?

I give you my manifesto as an example and a blank one for you to do yours, should you wish to.

Take good care of yourself and enjoy life!

Much love, Madeleine